I'm having guilt.
I've done nothing wrong.
And yet, I feel bad.
My son and his wife are struggleing financially.
Not because of job losses, or the economy, but because of choices they have made.
A free 42" flat screen HD tv that I let my son take with him was not good enough.
They went out and bought a 60".
Free Bedroom Furniture that I let him take?
Not good enough, they bought a whole new set.
They have lived the high life for the last 4 years on his inheritance, until there is nothing left, and nothing to show for it.
And now they may not be able to afford their apartment.
They want to move in with me.
I said no.
I told my son I was confident that they would find a solution to their problem (Isn't that a GREAT line?!?!?)
And I feel guilty, because I am choosing to no longer enable him. He needs to make choices and set priorities. He needs to understand that housing, food, clothing and medication come before movies, sushi, comic books, video games, and vacations. She needs to understand that sometimes you have to schedule school around work, not vice versa. Plus, if you can't afford your apartment, you can't afford to get your hair done, buy clothes and go out with your friends.
I'd like to point out that I've given BOTH of them to come work on my house with me for $10.00/hour and neither one has taken me up on it.